Innervoice – Darkside vs Lightside

Our Inner voice is like an echo chamber, the more you scream “LEAVE ME ALONE”, the more it’ll echo “LEAVE ME ALONE”. The more you offend it, the more you’ll get offended. You cannot kill your inner voice without losing your voice. So how to tame it?. When I ask this question myself, the inner voice said, “Name it”. The inner voice is not bad after all, don’t you think?. When I did, That’s when I came up with this idea.

Thanks to Mr. Tim Groover, author of Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable, for setting my curiosity on fire, and also Naruto, the fourth Hokage, who helped me to visualize what Groover said in real life. If you don’t know who Naruto is, Kindly don’t browse him on social media. You will see many but you will not find any. He is a fictional character from a Japanese manga series. (You can surf this on the internet, by the way. You will definitely find the right one)

Ok. Back up. We were talking about something important here.

NAME IT!!

I name it as Darkside and Light side. More or less like two faces of the same coin. Situations flip the coin, depending on the outcome, we react. You don’t need to wait in line or get a degree or job to tame it. That’s one of the reasons I loved working with this idea. Everything is inside you. You can work on it anytime.

I don’t want to make It sound like a scientific theory. I just want you to feel your light side and darkside. Give life to your imagination. Imagine two sides as two different people. Let’s go with ease.

(Empty your mind. One cannot fill the cup unless it’s empty. Once you are done with reading, empty it again and fill it with your own thoughts.)

Light side

The light side is responsible for happiness. Trust, love, empathy, compassion, patience, hope, gratitude, and kindness are her byproduct. So light side is a healer. She can heal and radiate hope. She loves too much. Care too much. Trust too much. She always makes you believe, everything happens for a reason and lead us forward. Only she can bring light inside our darkest tunnel with the constant reminder, “This shall too pass”. In short, She keeps us alive.

She’ll often sound like this,

The world’s not perfect, but it’s not that bad
If we got each other, and that’s all we have
I will be your mother, and I’ll hold your hand
You should know I’ll be there for you
When the world’s not perfect
When the world’s not kind
If we have each other, then we’ll both be fine
I will be your mother, and I’ll hold your hand
You should know I’ll be there for you

If We Have Each Other
Song by Alec Benjamin

Darkside

On the contrary, the Darkside as you can guess, works out of anger, revenge, hatred, ego, and envy. She demands results on the spot. she takes action instantly. She is a hater and hates everything. After being ridiculed and backstabbed by many, her heart turned to a beating stone, makes her prone to all painful, uncertain, hateful situations and won’t care about the pain she cause to others. If you praise, she won’t believe. If you criticize, she won’t leave you alive. All she needs is to bounce and pierce someone regardless of who controls it.

She never go unnoticed,

Criminals on the daily I’m a murder machine
I kept it minimal with forgiven finesse now they’re deceased
I sold my soul just to get the devil closer to me
But that which destroyed my home and then left nothing but debris
So I’m killing now sinning now
Man, it’s the beginning now
Gifted with the force
My purpose I’m fulfilling now
Yeah you can blame me
For spreading Chero like the blade
God never help me
So who’s the villain now?

Missing Me
Song by Dhruv Vikram and Santhosh Narayanan

My theory

Both are inside us. We cannot erase one side of the coin to use another. So what If, instead of flipping the coin, which is done by the situations most of the time, why not just turn it at our own will?

Problem with the light side

She doesn’t know the limit. She is so sensitive. We often feel like we are dumped because of being so kind to someone. You must have felt that before. Right?. The betrayal and the pain we feel will be immense. Most of us blame and give up kindness. But the problem is not kindness. We don’t know when to stop being kind. That’s the real problem.

So solution?

TRUST.

YES. Trusting our light side. We must not forget the important fact that she is a healer. She hardly suspects anyone. So if SHE DOES, then IT IS. SUSPICION is the sign. So Instead of ignoring the sign and digging out for facts & logic, switch her down.

Now the darkside comes in as a savior. Even though she is dark, she’s done a Ph.D. in manipulating behavior of human nature. As a result, she can handle hate in much professional manner which in turn will act as a shield to the light side. It will prevent the hate from disrupting the healing nature. So this way, the light side will not change her healing nature. And the darkside is still in her hating nature.

Problem with Darkside

Now the problem with Darkside is, she not only shields the manipulation and drama but also blinds us from the love and care which is truly reflected by others. Of course, she’ll make you feel good at the moment when it comes to revenge or venting out our anger but with the side effect named REGRET which shackles us for another year or two. REGRET is the sign. So that’s when we switch it back to the light side.

Door to legendary

Have you ever seen the coin stuck in between?. I believe this is where legendary levels are unlocked. Sometimes it occurs because of the continuous switching between the sides and sometimes because of staying on one side for a long time. It’s the combination of both.

Let me give you visuals.

Just imagine, Captain America as the light side and the Darkside took the form of the shield. So now, Darkside is an invincible weapon that can PROTECT the light side. But the light side is a supernatural BEING that can CONTROL the darkside.

Darkside and Lightside

Instead of trying to change the darkside into the light side and vice versa, we can use both. Darkside can easily be triggered and controlled by others, as she will exhibit the same hate and force regardless of who controls her. At the same time, she will hit the target on the dot. Most athletes use it for being relentless, to prevail, and to execute the work they put into their practice to manifest on its own in the real world. Don’t waste it on others. Use it on you. The more you use her in the right way, the more she’ll break the barriers to reach your goal. The thing is, she must be in the right hand.

Who is that?.

Captain America. YOU. The light side inside YOU.

Remember,
Only love can handle hate.

In short

The light side and the darkside are part of us. You cannot lit one side without the other. So, Protect the light side with your darkside and control the darkside with your light side. That works better.

Name it, Tame it.